Singles #SortingOut

Single women don’t like the label ‘single‘ in these parts of the woods because of the stigma. As a believing christian, I avoid attending any social event, programme or forum that has any connotation of ‘singleness’. However after a crazy year in 2012, in which everything that could go wrong, went wrong; I decided something had to give. Somehow, I felt this year would be the beginning of a new season for me.

A year ago, a friend invited me to attend a programme called ‘Sorting Out’ but I wasn’t able to attend due to work commitments. This year, I received another message from the same friend informing me of the next event, scheduled for March, specially for singles. Though uncomfortable with the ‘singles’ tag, I decided to sign up for the 3-day residential programme, after-all this is my new season PLUS it would serve as an opportunity to tell people about ‘Jemimah

This may be the best ‘time’ investment I ever made. The programme was a full on, intensive spiritual de-cluttering of ones past and present, in preparation for ones future and destiny. Testimonies from participants who attended last year’s singles programme, were hair-raising. A 52-year-old woman, who had never been married before and had given up all hope of ever getting married, testified that she met and married her husband within a year of attending the programme. Another younger lady met her fiancé after the programme and is scheduled to be married in a couple of months! Testimonies of restored businesses and finances abounded.

‘Sorting Out’ holds in several locations in Nigeria, the UK and the US. If you are serious about your destiny, please sign up for the programme. YOU WILL NOT REGRET IT. The worst that could happen is that your life is restored and you live out your destiny as originally intended by God. For details, check out the website ‘Sorting Out’



First Jemimah Meetup

On Wednesday 30th January, I met with a group of professional and business women (approximately fifteen). The mission? To cast the Jemimah vision and obtain feedback. It was a success and the ladies had fun. Interestingly, a couple of married friends attended and were able to give some interesting perspectives and insights PLUS mind blowing real life stories: not all that glitters is gold.

While eating, drinking and chatting, we all agreed that single women in Nigeria are considered to be at the bottom of the human strata i.e. married men first, then single men, then married women and finally single women. I was quite shocked when one of the ladies then proceeded to equate “cancer” to “single woman”. She said both are unspoken in the Nigerian palate. Someone dies of cancer, no one uses the word cancer when referring to cause of death. Someone is a single woman of a certain age, no one wants to mention the word single. Another lady mentioned to her friend that she was off to a Jemimah meetup. Once her friend found out the purpose of Jemimah, she asked why she was bothering to go. You’ll often hear people say of single women: ‘that isn’t your portion!’ Meaning don’t label yourself ‘single’ since you are trusting God for a husband
My thoughts: this is not something one can hide or deny long term, so why not embrace it and live your life, while waiting for loverboy husband to turn up?

Then there was the animated discussion of the potential challenges of online dating in a nation where men are allowed to date/marry multiple women. How do we ensure security on the site and protect the interests of signed up members? Looking for professional software/application developers who would be excited and willing to work with us on a project to build this site.

Final Thought – how do we sell the idea of Jemimah without people thinking ‘single’?

If you have any ideas and/or comments please feedback or email me at